“Be at peace, son of Gondor.”

Last week at his blog, OneSTDV posed the following questions in his Saturday Audience Participation post ‘Emotional Response to Pop Culture’:

  • Ever seen Twilight?
  • Thoughts?
  • Does any pop culture “get” to you emotionally?
  • If so, give examples and explain how/why.
  • Is it acceptable for men to cry watching a movie?

Those questions got me thinking, and here are my answers.

Ever seen Twilight?

I have no interest in seeing the Twilight films or reading the novels, because I prefer my vampires to be like those in one of my all-time favourite novels, Richard Matheson’s classic I Am Legend – bloodthirsty, horrible, and requiring to be utterly destroyed and nothing more.

Does any pop culture “get” to you emotionally?
Yes, many times. A good book, film or song can be powerful in itself, or can remind you of a certain moment or person in your life, or both.

If so, give examples and explain how/why.
Back in 2000, I read in one sitting Willie Morris’s delightful memoir My Cat Spit McGee. At one stage, he quotes from his earlier famous memoir My Dog Skip and describes when he returned home from college to visit the recently-deceased Skip’s grave and cried…and for the next five minutes I put the book down and cried myself, as I remembered a beloved family pet who’d been a big part of my childhood and teens and whom I last saw alive the day before I returned to university for my second year.

The first time I saw The Sixth Sense, I didn’t cry – but there was one scene that left a big lump in my throat, and the next time I saw The Sixth Sense it did make me cry. It’s that scene towards the end of the film where Toni Collette and Hayley Joel Osment are sitting in the car, he explains what’s been happening to him, she finally understands and they hug. Why did that make me cry? Because that scene took me back to my childhood, and Collette’s wonderful performance throughout the film reminded me so much of my mother and several other young mothers back then.

I also didn’t cry the first time I saw The Fellowship Of The Ring – but the next few times I did, when Boromir redeemed himself. Sean Bean was great as the conflicted Boromir, and after he fell victim to the Ring I was moved to tears by his act of sacrifice to make amends.

Is it acceptable for men to cry watching a movie?
Of course, it is. There’s nothing wrong with expressing emotion and crying is perfectly natural.

One night back in late 1998 when I saw Saving Private Ryan at a local cinema, I witnessed something there that I’ll always remember. During the stunning D-Day opening sequence, I heard gasps and retching all around me…but a couple of seats away, a well-dressed elderly man was sitting quietly and ramrod-straight while clasping the top of a cane with both hands. Tears were streaming down his face in a torrent, and every now and then he’d use the handkerchief he had in one hand to wipe his face, but he never made a sound.

I must confess, though, that whenever possible I cry in private, and the only person whom I feel comfortable crying in front of is my psychiatrist.

Why? Because like Robert Lindsay describes in his recent post ‘Should Men Cry More? NO’ (HT: In Bona Fide), it’s to avoid copping flak from others and feeling even worse.

‘Should Men Cry More? NO’ was very thought-provoking, but that’s a subject for another post.

Until next time, stay well and take care 🙂

About blackandblueman

Black and Blue Man lives in Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
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2 Responses to “Be at peace, son of Gondor.”

  1. Robert Lindsay says:

    Thx for the link. Are you depressed because you have OCD?

    • You’re welcome regarding the link 🙂

      I think that my OCD may have resulted from my depression. It’s likely that I’ve been depressed for most or all of my life, and when my OCD first appeared in late childhood it was behaviour to deal with issues I was having at the time, like having to do actions an even-numbered amount of times because it was ‘correct’.

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